We when reach the big 3-0, the dating game has this uncanny way of unexpectedly changing. All the sudden, the qualities that made you attractive to the opposite sex seem obsolete, and you quickly learn that getting older means accepting more responsibility if you are to attract certain women.
When you were in your twenties, women were impressed by your easy-going attitude, your career ambitions, and your lust for life. They didn’t seem notice when you were thrifty because you could always excuse it by saying, “I’m a poor student” neither did the ladies care if your clothes were hand me downs from your older brother.
Now, in your thirties, you’re starting to realize that women are expecting a lot more from you. They expect you to have figured out what you’re doing with the rest of your life, making a decent income, and getting ready to settle down. Gone are the days where you could take girls out to bars and get frat boy drunk with them. Rather you’re expected to pay for a meal at a ritzy restaurant and order fine wine. Within the first five minutes of meeting a new woman, the infamous question, “So what do you do for a living?” will pop up and the answer you give in your thirties means much more than it did in your twenties.
If you still haven’t figured out what you’re passionate about, and where you see yourself going then the message you are sending is this, “I’m indecisive, immature and unstable”. This is a major turnoff, especially for women in your age group. You could be the most confident person in the world, but if you don’t have your sh*t together, you will not seem attractive.
What you can offer and provide is part of your attractiveness at this age, and it’s an important (and nerve-racking) realization to make.