In the world of dating, we often find ourselves attracted to certain individuals for a period and then, like a light switch, we suddenly realize that we want nothing from a person than to just be friends. Perhaps, as you got to know them came the epiphany that you weren’t compatible as lovers.
If you want to keep the friendship and skip the romance, then you’ve got to have a conversation that suggests this idea in a very polite, friendly and convincing manner. Here’s how you do it:
Find an appropriate time to talk – Once a romantic connection has already been established, it can be difficult to move forward and tell them you are only interested in things on a platonic level. That’s why its crucial to bring up the subject at the right time – when they’re not stressed out or in a rush. You need time to talk about it, and they at least be in a good mood when you bring it up.
Flatter them, and go for the kill – You really want them to know that you think they are a great person. Compliment 3 meaningful aspects of their personality, and then finish it off by saying, “You’re an awesome person, but at the moment I can only just see us being friends”. Never use the old, |it’s not you it’s me” line because it’s a cliché that nobody likes to hear.
Prepare for a bad reaction – Understand that people handle rejection in very different ways. You must prepare for this person to take your suggestion personally, and refusing your offer for friendship. After all, it’s their only chance to turn the tables and regain some form of dignity. If the person genuinely feels like you had a solid connection then it’s likely that they will agree to the friendship. But don’t count on it.
All’s well that ends well, so do ensure that if you part ways that you offer them a genuine hug and a warm goodbye.