So the first date is over, and you are secretly hoping and praying that your dreamboat man will call again for another round. You wait in anticipation and get excited every time your phone rings, you’re thinking, “Could it be him?!” One day passes and then another, until finally you realize he hasn’t called you back. The dude didn’t even have the decency to tell you that he wasn’t interested.
These things happen all the time to great women all over the world, and the only way to prevent it from happening again is to understand the simple rules you need to follow during and after the first date.
Rule#1: Don’t be the instigator
Yes, this may come as a shock to many of you ladies out there but please refrain from asking a man out. Nine times out of ten you won’t get past the second date. Men seem to have this thing where they aren’t comfortable with being courted, and its instantly unattractive if a woman is far too aggressive. He will take it as a compliment, but unfortunately he will never take you seriously because he has a primal urge to chase.
Rule#2: Do not sleep with him on the first date
Sometimes this works out, but for the most part any woman who bangs a dude on the first date will likely not be getting another phone call for a second date. Why? Well, you played all your good cards already. He wants a challenge, and if you sleep with him, he’s probably going home thinking, “Does she do that with every guy?” A light goodbye kiss is appropriate for the first date, anything beyond that can be risky.
Rule#3: Do not contact him afterwards
This is a golden rule: We don’t care if you’re house is on fire, or if you were reminded of something funny about the date and you couldn’t resist the urge to let him know about it. There is no excuse for texting afterwards because it is way too soon. You just met and you aren’t best friends yet. Do not call text or add him to any of your social media accounts. If he wants to contact you, he will do so.
By following these simple rules, you are already on your way to second date success. Of course, there are many other factors that contribute to the chances of another date including chemistry, confidence and circumstance. But we want to ensure that you’re playing your cards right and avoiding the rookie mistakes because they can nip you in the butt if you aren’t informed of their importance.